Momentum & Change: The Underlying Connection

Momentum Challenge: Day 2

The world is wide, and I will not waste my life in friction when it could be turned into momentum.
~ Frances E. Willard

We know that most of us fail in keeping regular habits. The very first advice regarding habit formation I came across was years ago. In the book The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari, the author said that if you keep doing one thing everyday for 21 days, it will become a habit.

I had never tried that before. I am willing to now. By participating in the 21 Day Momentum Challenge. It is a campaign to take small action steps everyday, for 21 days. The purpose is to have all those small steps snowball into massive momentum. And, to use that momentum to take my business and life to the next level.

I don’t know if it will work. But, I am willing to find out. At worst, I will have spent 21 hours of my life trying to do something different (which otherwise might have been spent watching Game of Thrones reruns). Which brings me to the challenge for the second day. Why I do what I do. What makes me get out of bed in the morning. Why does it matter.

This is my Momentum Manifesto

I believe that to bring massive change one needs to have massive influence. To have massive influence one needs massive dreams and goals. Living and dreaming of an above average life will get you only that. To change the world, we need people who dream about changing the world. Not just idle dreams, a vision of the future and faith that the change is inevitable. A part of that dream is within each of us, but has been buried deep down by all the social conditioning and enculturation that is severely limiting us from having an impact. To bring out that dream, to nurture that spark into raging flames, it is imperative that the chains of status quo be broken. The cookie cutter model of go to school, get a job, and toil till you retire needs to be done away with. If we want to live differently than our parents or grandparents, we have to do things differently. The industrial revolution is ancient history. Simply showing up and wasting time in office doing unfulfilling work is not going to get us anywhere. The corporate model of do-what-you-are-told job is a dinosaur living in the digital age. Those who prefer the comfort and security of a regular paycheck and average lifestyle are welcome to it. For those who are dissatisfied, frustrated and unfulfilled we must become messengers who show them that there are other ways, better ways to live. What better way to do that than show it to them through our actions. Revolution is not caused by the masses. It is caused by the few who dare to defy the zeitgeist. The few whose power of belief is so strong that the momentum of the revolution sweeps up the clueless masses and hurls them into a new age where they must react to the world that has changed around them. This is the way revolutions work. In breaking the status quo, we make a new one. Thus, preparing the way for a new revolution. I am tired of waiting for a revolution to change my life. I am tired of hearing the same BS from everyone about how to live my life. I am tired of people simply believing that it can’t be done, without having tried even once. My gift to this world will be the gift of momentum, the gift of not giving up. The world needs changing and I volunteer to be an agent of this change. Thoughts, words, actions, and soul. I dedicate it all to this revolution.

If you’d like to join in the fun, with me and hundreds of others who want to make their own dint in the world, sign up here for the Momentum Challenge.


Bored to death? It’s a sign that you thirst for Growth


The mind is the root from which all things grow; if you can understand the mind, everything else is included.


Everybody feels bored from time to time. It is very normal because it’s just an indication of our brain’s need for stimulation. It’s just like when a person exhibits symptoms of an illness and the doctor prescribes medicine to cure it. In this case, boredom is the symptom and one must find a way to stimulate the brain.

There are a lot of ways to cure boredom. But, any activity that does so can be rated on two parameters – Growth & Distraction. An activity has to rate highly on both for it to be a good stimulation. If an activity is purely growth oriented, something like attending lectures in college, well, we all know what happens. In the long term, it might be good, but it isn’t able to hold our interest and we tend to go to sleep. Similarly, if the activity is pure distraction, like checking Facebook every spare moment, it doesn’t reach the amount of stimulation needed for the brain. But, it does provide variety. Something that holds our interest and is different from the mundane. It only serves to stimulate the brain in short bursts and lacks real growth potential.

I talk about this because I thought I used to get bored during college, but there one can always find something to do. Even if it is just doing laundry. I got introduced to real boredom at my job. There are days when I have nothing to do. I just have to show up, stay there for 8+ hours, and leave. I also found out that I wasn’t the only one who’s suffering these forced bouts of boredom. I keep hearing from my friends how they spend their time chatting on Facebook, playing Candy Crush Saga, gossiping in the cafeteria etc. Over time I realized that I just can’t go on living like this. Distracting myself every time boredom struck. Distraction isn’t growth, and without growth there is no life.

Extended periods of boredom can lead to frustration. A feeling that I had been feeling at my regular job for the past year and half. Experiencing frustration can make distractions really addictive. They provide the surety of always being available and the variety of being different from what is causing frustration. Also, I observed that every slight thing that didn’t go my way felt like a personal affront, especially if it happened at the workplace. In hindsight, I can tell you that the experience of surrounding myself with negativity was not a pleasant experience. So, even though I knew that it wasn’t helping, I felt justified in taking a break from reality by distracting myself. Drinking with friends always ended up with all of us criticizing our bosses; cafeteria gatherings became gossip sessions; movies, TV, video games, and social networking became the preferred way to escape after returning from work as well as during weekends.

Towards the end of that period, denied any growth, frustration decayed into something worse – desperation. Desperation can make people take decisions they normally wouldn’t. And, when the source of desperation is one’s work the decisions can be life altering. Decisions like choosing to do an master’s degree, which by itself is not bad. However, if the reason behind the decision is only to escape from an unsatisfying job, it will eventually lead to more pain and unhappiness. Or, giving in to the parental pressure to marry because you feel that there is something wrong in your life and that things will settle down to normal after marriage. Fortunately, I escaped making any such decision. However, I have been to the edge of desperation and have come back with a lesson learnt the hard way. Do not let your boredom dwindle into frustration, or worse desperation. When you feel that you regularly start feeling lost and experience bouts of restlessness or lethargy, it is a signal that your need for growth is making its presence felt. It is up to you to find ways to satisfy this need. Here is what helped me get out the dumps.

Know yourself

Neither your parents nor close friends can tell you what truly makes you happy. Even you might miss it in your busy life. Pay attention to what activities you enjoy, what you are good at, when time seems to fly while you are doing something. Keep a note of all such activities. An easy way to do this is to see what you on most weekends.

Learn Constantly

One of the easiest ways to keep the brain occupied is to learn. It doesn’t always have to be productive, but it must be enjoyable yet involve some challenge. Maybe you like learning a language, maybe you like watching documentaries, maybe you would like to learn kung-fu. Whatever catches your fancy is fine, as long as you consciously make time for it.

Be Creative

Learning is fine, and the next natural step is creation. Put your learning to use. It will give you a sense of great accomplishment. For e.g., if you enjoy watching food & cooking related shows, you could go out and film a local street food vendor. Or, if you like reading and researching gadgets, you can start reviewing them on your blog. Your creation might not turn out to be good in the beginning, but you should have fun doing it.


No matter who you are and what activity you pick, you will find a few other people doing it as well. It is not all difficult to find online communities where people have discussions over common interests. The best sense of fulfillment comes from contributing to these communities. People acknowledging your contribution is the best form of motivation for you to keep on giving.

Don’t Give Up

People usually fall into the trap of “I don’t feel like it”. Once you have chosen to do something you must schedule it for a period of time. It’s like making a habit of regular exercise or meditation. Some days it feels good and some days are dull. To form the habit you must do it regularly for at least a month. If it doesn’t feel good to be doing it after that period, you can drop it. For help on habit formation check out this website.

I can only say that each one of us has the freedom to choose a way to satisfy the need for growth. Boredom, frustration, and even desperation can be overcome by choosing what feels right. It doesn’t have to make sense to anyone else except you. I do get bored occasionally but I know ways to get over it now – mostly reading blogs or writing for my own. What about you? Are you ready to acknowledge your need for growth? Or will you let distractions drag you down to the depths of despair?

 PS – This is the video that inspired this post. Hope you enjoy it.